Forgive yourself:

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Forgive yourself.

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What happened to you is not your fault.

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You have no control over other people’s actions.

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You can’t decide how they’ll act or what they’ll say.

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They may hurt you but that’s not your fault.

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It’s not your burden to keep.

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We suffer more in thinking about the past than understanding there’s nothing you can do about it.

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It’s gone.

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You can’t control what happened at that moment.

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You can only control how you react today.

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You can control your response.

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But that takes time.

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It takes a lot of self-work.

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It can be through therapy, writing or meditating but you have to do the self-work.

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You need to understand your past.

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How can you know where to go if you don’t know where you’ve come from and why you are the way you are.

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It took me many years to accept I couldn’t control my parent’s actions.

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I couldn’t protect my siblings from what they were seeing.

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As the eldest, I internalized a lot of conflict in our household.

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I used to believe it was my fault.

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All kids tend to when their parents fight, but that stuff sticks with you.

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The guilt and shame are hard to shake.

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It can eat at you if you let it.

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But you have a choice.

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You can forgive yourself.

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It’s not your fault.

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Other people’s words and actions are not your responsibility.

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Your responsibility is to yourself.

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So before forgiving anyone else, forgive yourself.

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Keep going, you’re doing great.

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