Has time without a relationship made me who I am?

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Has time without a relationship made me who I am?

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There’s a reason I’ve done so much.

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I have been independent my whole life.

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Never had a serious girlfriend.

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Never spent that much time dedicated to finding someone.

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It’s been beneficial.

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But there are also downfalls.

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I don’t know how to act in relationships.

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I don’t know if I’m doing too much or too little.

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I don’t know if I’m always making a mistake or going too far.

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I haven’t done it enough and to be honest, it’s not been a priority.

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It was drilled in me when I was a kid.

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Growing up in an Indian household means no relationships as a kid, focus on your education, get into a good university, get a good job and get married.

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It was brainwashed into me so young that I feel like I missed something.

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I missed learning about relationships.

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Having good ones and screwing other ones up.

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Not taking everything so seriously.

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Do I have some regrets?

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Sometimes.

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But I also know I’m here because of those choices.

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I chose to be on my own.

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I chose to take the risks.

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I knew having someone along for the ride through all the moving and different careers was not fair to them.

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No one should have to follow my path.

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I need to do it on my own and find the right person along the way.

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The one who’s moving in the same direction.

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Who’s had life experiences as well.

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I’ve had more life experiences in my brief time on earth than people won’t get in a lifetime.

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Relationships were just not part of the equation.

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My math was a relationship I could figure out down the road.

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Being a guy with no biological clock, I have time.

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Time to achieve and build the life I want.

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Then find the right person who fits into mine.

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So yea, time without a relationship is the reason I’m here today.

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I don’t get the time to read, write, work and party if I’m in a serious relationship.

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Don’t give those things up for just anyone.

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Be you and let the right person come into your life at the right time.

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Don’t worry about not being in a long-term relationship in the past.

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It’s gotten you here and look how far you’ve come.

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