What are you optimizing for?

Optimizing your life and asking yourself the question
Feb 19, 2024
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What are you optimizing for?

What are you optimizing for?

Money?

Fame?

Status?

To be liked?

To be understood?

To be happy?

Ask yourself - what is it that you are optimizing for?

We’re all optimizing for something.

Whether consciously or unconsciously, we all make choices that dictate what we want in life.

For most of us, we may not even know why we’re optimizing for something.

For a lot of people, it’s money.

Taking a job you don’t like to make sure you can make enough money to make your parents proud.

That is a road to misery.

For others, it’s optimizing for our health.

Making sure we’re in the best shape possible by following a strict diet and routine, but that pushes us away from randomness and spontaneity.

For some people, it’s work-life balance. 

Showing up to a job they may not love but making sure they’re home every day for their kids and partner.

What’s the point of all of this?

It’s to make you think about what you’re optimizing for.

For me, it started with status.

Becoming a doctor.

Making my Indian parents proud.

They wanted me to be a doctor so I should be one right?

I’m glad they pushed me in that direction but I lost myself along the way.

The idea of medicine and the job of medicine are two different things.

It was only through the process that I realized optimizing for status was never going to make me happy.

Then I got into the venture capital business and I thought about optimizing for money.

Read a ton of investment books.

Followed some of the smartest investors in the world.

Listened to what they had to say.

Thought about starting my own fund.

Then realized it wasn’t what I loved.

I love to write.

I love to learn.

I love to teach.

Now it’s optimizing for this media company.

Optimizing to create an entity where I can get paid to do all the things I like.

Is that going to fulfill me and give me all the happiness I need?

Probably not.

But it does give me purpose and direction.

It does make me excited to get up in the morning.

It does give me something to look forward to.

Is that what I should be optimizing for?

I don’t know.

The reason for this question isn’t to get an answer.

It’s to think of your own life and ask yourself the question.

What are you optimizing for?

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