The Courage to Be Disliked
Kishimi and Koga
Summary
How to live life authentically and stop worrying about what other people think. The teachings of Alfred Adler, one of the most famous psychologists of the 20th century.
Rating: 5/5
Notes
None of us live in an objective world but a subjective world that we give meaning to
Your life is something you choose yourself and you are the one who decides how to live
People are not driven by past causes but goal they themselves set
All problems are interpersonal relationship problems
Feelings of inferiority we have are subjective interpretations by our mind
Pursuit of serendipity is to try and be the best and when you don’t make it, people have feelings of inferiority
The one who boasts does so only out of a feeling of inferiority - Adler
You’re the only one worrying about your appearance
It’s not what what is born with but what use one makes of the equipment
Deny the desire for recognition
If you are not living your life for yourself, who is going to live it for you?
Separate other people’s tasks from your task
Ask ‘who’s task is this?’ If it's someone else’s, don’t intervene. If it’s yours, don’t let anyone else intervene
‘Freedom is being disliked by other people’
The courage to be happy induces the courage to be disliked
You are part of a community, not its centre. You’re not the centre of the world
The more one is praised by another person, the more one forms the belief that one has no ability
Focus on what one can change, not what one cannot
Place unconditional confidence in other people in all relationships
Happiness is the feeling of contribution as determined by you
Don’t treat life as a line but a series of dots each representing moments or experiences
The greatest life life is to not live in the present, here and now
‘Life has no meaning. Whatever meaning life has must be assigned to it by an individual’ - Alfred Adler
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Make Something Wonderful
Steve Jobs
Summary
The life of Steve Jobs in his own words
Rating: 5/5
Notes
Make something wonderful and put it out there
‘You appear, have a chance to blaze in the sky, then you disappear’
When you’re a stranger in a place, you notice thing you don’t otherwise (Jobs after India trip)
Whenever you start with nothing, always shoot for the moon. You have nothing to lose.
You never achieve what you want without falling on your face a few times
Never be afraid to fail. You never achieve what you want without falling flat on your face a few times
We are never taught to listen to our intuitions, to develop and nurture them. But if you do pay attention to these subtle insights, you can make them come true
Creativity equals connecting previously unrelated experiences and insights others don’t see
Believe that some of what you follow with your heart will come back and make your life richer. And it will. And you will gain even firmer trust on your instincts and intuitions
Make your avocation your vocation. Make what you love your work.
The journey is the reward. The reward isn’t in the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, it’s in crossing the rainbow
To find A+ talent, if experienced, look at their track record and results
The world we know is a human creation and we can push it forward
The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do (read whole ad ‘here’s to the crazy ones)
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act but a habit - Aristotle
Hire people better than you are
You can’t plan to meet the people who will change your life
It’s impossible to connect the dots looking forward, but they make sense looking backwards so you have to trust the dots will somehow connect in your future
Everything around you that you call life was made up by people no smarter than you
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