Find someone to do life with

Find someone to do life with:

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Find someone to do life with.

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A partner.

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A best friend.

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A person next to you.

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Through all of it.

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All that life will present you.

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All the good.

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And all the bad.

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Find someone who wants to live that with you.

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Who wants to dedicate their time next to you.

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To experience life together.

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Life is boring alone.

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Not worth it.

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All the things you will accomplish.

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They will mean nothing alone.

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Nothing.

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But with others.

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They will be everything.

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It will feel like a journey together.

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It is a journey together.

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I’ve seen it with my parents.

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32 years together.

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2 years older than me.

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Next to each other.

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At every event.

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Every party.

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Every weekend.

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Every trip.

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Every experience.

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Every conflict.

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All of it.

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Together.

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Figuring it out.

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We were in the middle of it.

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Especially me.

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I never thought they would make it.

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There were lots of tough times.

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More than anyone saw.

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I took the brunt of it.

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I blamed myself.

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As every kid does.

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But it wasn’t me.

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It was them.

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They have different conflict styles.

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They fight differently.

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They were raised differently.

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Their childhoods were different.

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How their parents loved them was different.

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My dad is an avoidant.

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My mom is an anxious.

You’ll know what I mean if you read Attached.

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We all have attachment styles.

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4 of them.

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Avoidant.

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Anxious.

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Disorganized, which a mix of both.

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And Secure.

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An anxious with an avoidant tends to have the highest propensity for conflict.

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They feel love in different ways.

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They experience love in different ways.

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They give love in different ways.

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Because of how they were raised.

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My dad was raised in a house where they didn’t show love outwardly.

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Not sure if his dad ever said I love you to him.

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So he just grinded.

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Head down.

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And made a life.

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An incredible life.

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But it’s more incredible because we’re all together.

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Because the family is one.

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They didn’t let it go.

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He and my mom.

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They fought for it.

They didn’t agree many times.

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But they always came back.

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They always chose the relationship.

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The kids.

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The family.

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The unit.

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They taught me resiliency.

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More than anything.

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Just stay in it.

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Figure it out.

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Don’t leave it.

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No matter how bad it gets.

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There’s always a way forward.

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I want that in my life.

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Someone to enjoy life with.

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To have fun.

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To experience it.

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To go through it together.

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Was at another wedding tonight.

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My 26th since the beginning of 2022.

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26 weddings in the last 3 years.

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That’s a lot.

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And a lot of them are Indian.

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Meaning there are multiple events.

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I’ve learned a lot.

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I’ve seen a lot.

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I know what I want for mine.

I know what’s important.

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I even have a list.

One that everyone wants to see.

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I’ll add my suggestions below so you can see it for yourself.

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For those of you who read this, whenever you do, here are a few ideas to make your wedding a massive party and a great night for everyone who attends.

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Wedding ideas

Baby videos from both sides

Toast with each table (if small wedding)

Photo Booth

Pizza and fries at the end of the night

Tylenol/packs of electrolytes for alcohol

Soul train at the end for whoever is left 

Karaoke at an early event

Kiss cam at the wedding

Party favour - deck of cards nice with the wedding date, golf marker, matches, T-shirts?

Have to have an after-party room, or plan

My first and last drink trend

Me and all groomsmen lined up and champions league anthem plays with camera panning

Live painting of wedding

Sketch artist available during cocktail hour for people to get their faces drawn

Disposable camera at every table - app

Album QR code for all guests to upload pictures/videos so everyone can see and download

Make sure DJ plays chunks of Indian then English music, but end with English music 

During Bharat, have big speaker following and a jeep

Organize photos in groups so that people know when to come up, tell wedding planner and organize in advance 

Box for wedding cards

Mango lassi and tea post wedding event

Coffee truck (if morning wedding)

Scottish bagpiper w/ dhol - at Bharat or reception

Bride and groom dance off, put together by MC (Amar’s wedding)

AC on the dance floor

Caricatures at an event for guests 

Make sure you have coffee cart in driveway of morning event 

Fans on seats for summer outdoor wedding

Flute player at wedding ceremony

No additional entertainment for reception

Wine bottles at every table 

All professional photos done by photographers (ideally videos if G drive) should be downloadable by everyone after the wedding as a link

Light up bracelets at the end so it’s like a Coldplay concert 

Someone walking around on dance floor taking pictures of people with a light - selfie camera like an influencer)

Pasta on the dance floor (like monica and Karan)

Engraved glass person (like Monica and Karan)

Dance off at the end - different types of music 

Idea for singles at an event - instagram + phone for everyone who’s single to decide

Pictures of couple together lined inside groom’s blazer

Think about lighting for certain backdrops so people can take nice photos 

Make sure water at the side of every bar

McDonald’s at back of bar at end of night

Coordinated mini dances for entrances

Make sure centre pieces are low so people can see the dance floor.

Announce last call via DJ 15 minutes before bar closing (close 1 hour before).

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These ideas will help.

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A lot.

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Your wedding will be much more memorable if you incorporate these.

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You’ll stand out.

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You’ll be different.

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You’ll be the event that people talk about for a long time.

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And when they say you, they’ll always remember.

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You put on a good party.

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That’s what life should be.

A party.

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But not done alone.

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Done with someone else.

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Life’s worth living for someone else.

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To do it right with somebody.

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To commit.

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To commit to a beautiful life that’s more than just you.

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Find someone to do life with.

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You’ll never regret it.

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