No one cares

No one cares:

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No one cares.

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Literally.

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No one.

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No one is paying attention to you.

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You may think they are.

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You may think everyone’s eyes are on you.

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They’re not.

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People have short attention spans.

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Even shorter now.

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Thanks social media oligarchs.

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You’ve ruined society’s ability to pay attention.

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But it’s not just recent.

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It’s been around forever.

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Human beings are inherently selfish.

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Go read the Stoics if you don’t believe me.

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They had a better grasp of human nature than we do today.

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They said.

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All humans are inherently selfish.

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People care about themselves.

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Then their family.

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Then the people closest to them.

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Some people care about more.

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But most people are selfish.

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They’re only paying attention to themselves.

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Why does everyone look at themselves on a Zoom call?

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Don’t lie.

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We all do it.

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Why do people rewatch their Instagram story?

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We want the attention.

We want to be convinced that people are paying attention to us.

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That people care.

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They don’t.

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They care for a second.

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Then they move on.

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They’ll forget about whatever you put up as soon as they’ve flicked past it.

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And yet, we hold ourselves back so much because of this.

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Because of this idea we’re being watched.

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Being followed.

That people care what we’re doing in our life.

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They don’t.

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They’re trying to figure out their own.

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They’re phones are just making them distracted by using your life as content.

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That’s all it is.

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Saw this Youtube video a while back with a successful old guy.

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He said you spend your 20s thinking everyone is watching you.

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You spend your 30s by stopping to care about other people’s opinions.

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You spend your 40s realizing no one was paying attention to you in the first place.

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They don’t care.

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No one does.

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Think of you for a moment

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Then poof.

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Back to their own life.

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Their own story.

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Their own reality.

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You can’t live life waiting for other people to watch you.

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For them to care about you.

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For them to tell you you’re doing great.

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That will never come.

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Life is a single-player game.

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It’s you against you.

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Everyone else is just a pawn in your matrix.

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So you have to decide.

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What do you want to do?

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What do you want out of life?

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What do you want your life story to be?

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Do you want it to be exciting?

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Or boring?

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Because the choice is yours.

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You can just decide to do things.

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To try something new.

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To pick up a new hobby.

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To put yourself out there like you haven’t before.

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At the beginning of this year, I had never ridden a bike more than 10k.

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I had never swum more than 20 laps in a pool.

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I barely knew what a triathlon was.

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Yet here I am.

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5 weeks away from a full Ironman.

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3.8k swim.

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180k bike.

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42k run.

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Why?

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Because.

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Why not.

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Like I said, you can just do things.

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You can just decide you want to complete something and go do it.

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Here’s the secret.

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Everyone started as a beginner.

Everyone.

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However, they just kept with it.

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Just kept trying.

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Just kept getting up after they fell down.

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Eventually they started to get the hang of it.

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They started to see improvements.

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Then they kept going,

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Again.

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And again.

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And again.

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Even when no one was cheering them on.

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When no one was there.

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When no one cared.

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They just kept pushing.

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Why?

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Because they just decided.

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This is the life I want to live.

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These are the actions I want to take.

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This is the adventure I want to embark on.

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That’s what this journey is to.

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An adventure.

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An adventure that started at the bottom.

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And now we’re here.

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5 weeks away from an Iromnan.

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Full swim distance completed once.

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Couple marathons.

Few 100k+ rides.

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I’m getting there.

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I’m almost there.

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Almost at the finish line of this crazy and unbelievable journey.

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The thing I just realized is people are paying attention.

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People do care.

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People are following along.

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When you choose a life of adventure and challenge, people are inspired.

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Heard that multiple times at a party I went to in the last few days.

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Who knew.

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Apparently people are paying attention.

Even though at the end of the day, no one cares.

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